I received a message from one of our transformation members and I felt the need to share it with you. It was overwhelming to see this kind of openness and vulnerability. I am so grateful that we’ve created a place where people feel safe to share what’s really going on deep inside. There is power in honesty because it gives others strength to be honest in their own lives. I hope this helps you and begins to heal this area of your hearts…
Message from Transformation Member: (She gave me permission to share this)
“I have a confession to make. I’m afraid. I’m afraid to lose weight and still not be enough… I have never been anything but chunky or fat. So the fear of losing this weight and still be not pretty enough or cute enough or good enough makes me think. Why bother!? Obvious answer is that I will be healthier and that should be motivation enough, right? It is and it isn’t. The fear makes me self sabotage. I want to be pretty. And feel pretty. I never have and it scares me to think that at 41 I’m too old to ever feel it. I know beauty is in the eye of the beholder, or so the saying goes, but what this beholder only sees ugly fat me. I’m sorry.”
“Thank you for your candid confession of what we can all relate to. I feel like this is an area in my life I can finally be authentic and surrendered in. It’s only taken me 40 years:))) I knew that being an online coach was going to hold me accountable to practice what I preached. All the blogs and messages I preach, I preach to myself;) The message is simple. “I am enough!” Not “I will be enough when I lose the last five pounds or the last 100 pounds!” You see, the amount of weight is not the issue. We have to get to a place of self love and acceptance. When we honor and respect our bodies, we will treat it well. When we self sabotage, there are deeper issues of feeling like we don’t deserve the victory. We have to ask the question, “Why not?” We make excuses and we blame our circumstances and we stay stuck. Look at yourself and ask yourself, “Why not me? Why don’t I deserve to be happy and healthy?” You were not designed to be overweight. Some of us are designed to be more top heavy or bottom heavy. That’s called genetics. But we are all designed to be healthy. You can take charge of uncovering what that design is supposed to look like. This should be so empowering to you because the choice is yours. The ball is in your court. For me, turning 40 turned on a switch and I panicked a little bit. I felt like my time was ticking. I had to make radical decisions to change. Everyday is an opportunity to make the right choice. Everyday is an opportunity to love yourself more. This is the first time in my life I can look in the mirror and not hate what I see. That to me is such amazing growth and progress. This journey is so much more than losing weight, learning how to eat the right foods and exercising. It’s really about finding yourself and falling in love with who you really are!!! Believe it….you are wonderfully and fearfully made. You are not here by chance but you are here by design. You are going to inspire so many people in your life by your example. Be a role model! I am honored and humbled to be in this journey with all of you. I love my life and what I get to do. All my struggles and hardships are here to help others just like you are going to help so many people overcome. This is an epidemic. Women hate themselves. This is what our daughters are seeing. Let’s stop the cycle. Be confident and know that you are beautiful!!! You really are. Thank you for being here:)))”
I felt the need to share this because we can all relate to this in one way or another. Please take some time to give yourself encouragement, kindness and love today. You are worth it. You really are:)
I love you guys and I’m rooting for you!!!