Yesterday, Erik and I celebrated seventeen years of marriage. That’s seventeen years in a row people!!! LOL! In this day and age, that’s quite an accomplishment. I’m so grateful for all the well wishes and encouragement from friends and family. A lot of people mentioned how “lucky” we were. I’m definitely thankful and do feel extremely lucky but seriously, marriage has nothing to do about luck.
Our marriage has gone through many seasons. Some tsunamis, earthquakes, category 4 hurricanes, and have lived to tell about it. Being on social media, people only see the “highlight reel” as Steven Furtick calls it. Our “behind the scenes” are messy, sad, and sometimes beyond repair. We have almost broken up a few times. The most serious incident was when I was eight months pregnant with my second child, Emma and Jacob was just one years old. It was a dark time and a tough season. We had to work hard to build trust and repair our relationship. Sometimes, things happen to tear our marriage down so it could be built up the right way. Without God and without people to help us along the way, we would be nothing but a statistic shuffling kids around every weekend.
There were stormy seasons for sure. There were days that we couldn’t bear but promised to just take it one breath at a time. Trusting. Hoping. Believing that miracles could happen.
I guess the most important lesson for me was to learn to sweep my own side of the street. There were always things I could be critical about but man, I had enough crap on my side of the street to last a lifetime. Once I started really dealing with me, life got better. My perspective changed and we started to have harmony again in the marriage. I know that Erik did the same thing. Personal development is an important tool to grow in your relationships. Some people think that wit, charm, and beauty is all you need to keep the relationship vibrant. Sorry to burst your bubble but those things don’t last. They are cute for about the first few months but then you need substance. You need depth. It takes vulnerability to take your relationship to another level. Sometimes, we don’t go there simply because we don’t know how. We don’t have the tools. I’m so grateful to have created a curriculum that we will be using at our weekend retreat workshops to help women how to live authentically and love wholeheartedly. Erik and I are in such a different place today in our marriage. We absolutely have our bad moments but there’s a complete joy, respect, admiration, and deep love for one another that had to come from sufferings. We didn’t like it at the time but now we are stronger, wiser, and more grateful for what we have. I hope you’ll join me for our next workshop. Learn how to live your most authentic life now!!!
January 17-19 Austin, TX
March 28-30 Malibu, CA
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