Day 12 of 21 Day Challenge!

Day 12

We’re around the bend now…it’s gonna go super fast from here.  Let me encourage you to stay in the moment and engage each moment.  It will be tempting to wish that time could fast forward so you could eat that cookie, but this is not the point of this cleanse.  I hope you are enjoying how clean and light your body feels without all that sugar and processed food.  To be honest, I have not felt deprived at all.  I’m eating tons of fruit and vegetables and being creative in the kitchen.  Don’t white knuckle it to the end.  Think of this as the foundation for your lifestyle change!

Mantra for the Day: VULNERABILITY Part #2
We had such a great response from this yesterday that I thought we would continue the dialogue.  There seems to be a perception that being vulnerable is weak.  Actually, in it’s true definition, it means to be open to attack, unguarded, naked.  Well, that doesn’t sound fun does it!? lol!  Actually, true strength comes from being vulnerable and authentic.  When you are secure with who you are, you won’t fear what others may say or think about you.  That my friends, is freeing!  In order to have any kind of intimacy in life, you must be vulnerable.  People that are isolated, lonely, depressed, and discouraged are probably not the most open people.  There is strength in being real. There is great security in knowing that people love you for who you really are and not for what you portray to be. When you are truly present and you can feel what you’re feeling in the moment, that is when you are fully alive!  If you’ve ever rehearsed a conversation to be what you think others want to hear or edit and exaggerate a story so that it pleases people, you are not being your true authentic self.  Just for today, really engage and be in the moment.  Be unfiltered.  But don’t be mean!:) See what happens.  Tell us about it!

 

Try this out!  Make sure you’re moving and getting a good workout.  Again, this is a lifestyle challenge so do something that you will enjoy and that you can continue to do because you love it!!!

 

Recipe of the Day: Homemade Lara Bars! From: Real Food Real Deals
I’m so excited to find this!  I love Lara Bars and now I can experiment and make my own flavors.  Check it out here…..Click for recipes!

Much Love,

Judy

The Show Must Go On!!!

“The show must go on!” Having been in the entertainment industry, I know this mantra all too well.  I’ve “performed” while deathly ill, danced on a severely sprained ankle, danced while hung over, danced while I was nursing a broken heart, and many other scenarios I’m sure.  One thing was certain, I would put my make up on and smile pretty for the camera, or the live audience or whatever it was I was doing at the time.  Many times, dance was a great escape.  It was a reason to suck it up and shut off any emotion I might be feeling.  So, I trained myself not only in my professional life but in my real life to just smile and not deal.  I lived most of my life in this dissociative place.

 

So here I am now, no longer dancing for the cameras but trying to live my life as authentically as I can.  I’m on a journey to self discovery and what I’m learning is that we all desire intimacy.  I heard somewhere that intimacy stands for “into me see”.  To be secure enough to be known in our deepest core and to be loved is what we really want.  For someone to love us warts and all.  I believe we have to get that security from our Creator.  We can’t live it if we don’t feel it.  I believe it’s what each and every single person desires in this world.  To be seen and to be loved.  I am working on something really special right now.  My dad’s passing has fueled my fire and has pushed me off the ledge to finally make this happen.  I’m really excited about it but I can’t give you any details yet.  Stay tuned.

So, as I grieve honestly, I cry when I need to and I laugh without guilt.  Authentic living is to be free to feel.  I’m an isolator by nature.  When I first heard the news of my Dad’s passing I immediately dropped everything, ran upstairs and locked myself in the closet, cried, and prayed.  I have been very tempted to just take off and be alone but in the deepest core of my being, I don’t want to be alone.  I want to be surrounded by love, life, and laughter.  I want to be reminded that I’m still here and my mission is not finished.  I cry with my kids because I want them to see what grief looks like for me.  It’s not about sucking it up and being “strong” but being able to fall apart and allow others to give to me.  That takes being vulnerable to allow others to see me in my weakness.  I keep telling myself that even though this is my time to grieve, I have a responsibility to teach my kids by my example.  This is truly a journey and everything in life was meant to be felt.  We can’t have the joys without the heartache.  I try to remind myself that it’s a good thing.  It means I have a pulse.  As I go through this challenging time, I’m reminded by this amazing quote….

Thanks for listening.  This is therapeutic for me.  I wrestled with whether or not I should go on with my next online challenge group.  August 24th to October 2nd.  I decided to go ahead with it because ironically, one of the topics we’ll be discussing is how to deal with emotional eating and dealing with triggers.  I also have a special guest joining us.  We will have Sandi Atmore, a Grief Recovery counselor on board to help us unpack these issues and give us practical advice on how to deal in a healthy way.  Space is limited.  RSVP today.  Spread the word.  Would love to do this challenge with you.  Sign up here.

Day 58 of 90 Day Challenge!

 

 

Day 58!

I received a message from one of our transformation members and I felt the need to share it with you.  It was overwhelming to see this kind of openness and vulnerability.  I am so grateful that we’ve created a place where people feel safe to share what’s really going on deep inside. There is power in honesty because it gives others strength to be honest in their own lives.  I hope this helps you and begins to heal this area of your hearts…

 

Message from Transformation Member: (She gave me permission to share this)

“I have a confession to make. I’m afraid. I’m afraid to lose weight and still not be enough… I have never been anything but chunky or fat. So the fear of losing this weight and still be not pretty enough or cute enough or good enough makes me think. Why bother!? Obvious answer is that I will be healthier and that should be motivation enough, right? It is and it isn’t. The fear makes me self sabotage. I want to be pretty. And feel pretty. I never have and it scares me to think that at 41 I’m too old to ever feel it. I know beauty is in the eye of the beholder, or so the saying goes, but what this beholder only sees ugly fat me. I’m sorry.”

 

 

My response:

“Thank you for your candid confession of what we can all relate to. I feel like this is an area in my life I can finally be authentic and surrendered in. It’s only taken me 40 years:))) I knew that being an online coach was going to hold me accountable to practice what I preached. All the blogs and messages I preach, I preach to myself;) The message is simple. “I am enough!” Not “I will be enough when I lose the last five pounds or the last 100 pounds!” You see, the amount of weight is not the issue. We have to get to a place of self love and acceptance. When we honor and respect our bodies, we will treat it well. When we self sabotage, there are deeper issues of feeling like we don’t deserve the victory. We have to ask the question, “Why not?” We make excuses and we blame our circumstances and we stay stuck. Look at yourself and ask yourself, “Why not me? Why don’t I deserve to be happy and healthy?” You were not designed to be overweight. Some of us are designed to be more top heavy or bottom heavy. That’s called genetics. But we are all designed to be healthy. You can take charge of uncovering what that design is supposed to look like. This should be so empowering to you because the choice is yours. The ball is in your court. For me, turning 40 turned on a switch and I panicked a little bit. I felt like my time was ticking. I had to make radical decisions to change. Everyday is an opportunity to make the right choice. Everyday is an opportunity to love yourself more. This is the first time in my life I can look in the mirror and not hate what I see. That to me is such amazing growth and progress. This journey is so much more than losing weight, learning how to eat the right foods and exercising. It’s really about finding yourself and falling in love with who you really are!!! Believe it….you are wonderfully and fearfully made. You are not here by chance but you are here by design. You are going to inspire so many people in your life by your example. Be a role model! I am honored and humbled to be in this journey with all of you. I love my life and what I get to do. All my struggles and hardships are here to help others just like you are going to help so many people overcome. This is an epidemic. Women hate themselves. This is what our daughters are seeing. Let’s stop the cycle. Be confident and know that you are beautiful!!! You really are. Thank you for being here:)))”

 

 

I felt the need to share this because we can all relate to this in one way or another.  Please take some time to give yourself encouragement, kindness and love today. You are worth it.  You really are:)

 

Tuesday- Pick a cardio workout and do it with joy:))))

I love you guys and I’m rooting for you!!!