I really didn’t understand how to change my mindset until I turned forty. Imagine, I wasted a lot of years dwelling on my self image and had major self esteem issues. If you are a young woman reading this, here’s a word of advice…..”STOP IT!!!” If I have any regrets in life, it’s wasting decades of my life not being grateful for the body I was designed to have. I wasted many years of being paralyzed by fear. Fear of success, fear of failure, fear of the unknown. So, now that I’m older and wiser here’s what I’ve learned…..
#1. Nobody cares. LOL! What I mean is, all the time and energy I spent caring about what people thought about me was time wasted because in reality, all those people were too busy dwelling on their own insecurities to worry about mine:)
#2. It’s OK to be flawed. I’m almost forty three and I have three kids. I will always have stretch marks and that little pooch that won’t go away. I look at my kids and I know that it was worth it!!! It’s OK and it’s actually quite beautiful to see the battle scars:)))
#3. Find someone who loves you for YOU! I’m incredibly lucky to be married to a man who has seen me at my best and my worst yet still loves me. His love for me is unconditional and has never made me feel insecure about myself. We are in it for the long haul. We’re not going to turn each other in for upgrades when things start falling apart. I’m grateful for that everyday. We will be celebrating our 16th wedding anniversary this month and we still like each other and enjoy each other. Find someone not just for the superficial qualities. Find someone who makes you better and who will continue to invest in the relationship. Grow together and not apart.
#4. Perfection is overrated. So what if you miss a workout or eat that chocolate cake. See Rule #1- Nobody cares!!! :))) Give yourself permission to be human and enjoy life sometimes. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve beaten myself up for slip ups that really didn’t matter. In the grand scheme of things, all that matters is that we are kind and respectful to others.
#5. You can’t do it alone. The success I’ve been able to accomplish has come from GOD and I give him ALL the glory:))) But I know that I wouldn’t be able to grow and change and have victories in my life without all the friends and family that support me and my dreams. It’s important to have people that believe in you. I have an amazing support group of people who encourage me and help me to be better. I have amazing coaches and mentors that tell me the truth and set the bar high so that I’m constantly on my toes and not get complacent. If you have toxic people in your life, it might be time to clean house. Set boundaries and surround yourself with people that are going to lift you higher. You will always have your critics. Remember that you don’t have to listen and believe their criticism.
I pray to remain teachable and humble and to learn new things. That really is the biggest secret. I remember being in my early twenties and thinking that I knew EVERYTHING!!! WOW! Now that I’m older, the more I think I know, I realize that I don’t know much…LOL! Hope this encourages you.